Tis the season for family get-togethers, holiday parties, and all kinds of festive events.  However, it can also be a stressful time of year with lots of expectations, social commitments, and the pressure to celebrate and be happy – all of which is especially difficult to deal with when you’re dealing with infertility. That’s why, we urge you to use some of our favorite tips to handle infertility over the holiday season. With some advanced planning and realistic expectations, you can make the holidays as stress-free as possible.

Tip #1: Just say no

Remember that you don’t have to say yes to every invitation you receive for a holiday party or event.  Parties that include lots of kids and pregnant woman may be especially hard, so know that it is okay to send your RSVP with a regret.

Do not let yourself feel guilty about not participating in all traditional family events.  It’s stressful enough trying to juggle different families, so never is it more important to focus on your happiness and that of your partner’s.

Tip #2: Rehearse responses

If you do decide to attend, prepare yourself for curious family members or friends that may ask questions you do not necessarily want to answer.  A good idea is to prepare and rehearse your responses.  It’s okay to be honest, but at the same time, do not feel obligated to be an open book.

Tip #3: Spend time with friends and family who don’t have kids

Many times, family festivities are all about the kids.  If this is too much to handle this year, plan to spend time with couples or other friends who do not have children.  If you can’t completely back out of the family feast, plan to arrive just in time for the meal and head home shortly after.

Tip #4: Focus on you

Take time to do things that bring your happiness. Enjoy a special evening out with your partner, take a long walk, curl up by the fire with a good book, or plan an amazing weekend get-a-way!  Whatever it is that makes you happy, do it!  It’s the best gift you can give yourself.

Tip #5: Start your own traditions

Start your own family traditions with your partner, one that celebrates the relationship you share with each other and the family that the two of you have already created.

Tip #6: Don’t suppress your feelings

Do not pretend that there’s nothing wrong and carry on with business as usual.  Allow yourself to feel sad, deprived, or depressed.  You are entitled to these feelings!  Make time to share these feelings with your partner.  When you express your feelings, chances are you’ll feel a lot better.

Are you dealing with infertility? The experts at AZARH can help you through this process with compassion and understanding.  For more information or to schedule a consultation at one of our fertility clinics in Greater Scottsdale and Phoenix area, please call (480) 946-9900.